Enter Rollo Tomassi

In 2008, after my marriage failed, I began to work part-time at an agency. On my first day, I met a gentleman named C.C. (his initials) who would change my life. He probed me that day, seeing if I could accept his truth (No, he was a straight guy). I knew that he was feeling me out, so I went along with it until he felt comfortable enough to tell me that he was a P.U.A. To the uninitiated, a P.U.A is a pick-up artist, or someone who is learned in certain aspects of knowledge and methods to pick up women. Years prior, I had encountered information on manhood and how to get and keep a woman. I had started to study this information because I instinctively knew that I was undeveloped as a man, and I obviously didn’t know enough about women because my marriage was falling apart at the time of my exposure to this new knowledge! 

I suspected that he was one of those guys who studied the material. I had always been lukewarm on their tactics, so I never went down that rabbit hole. C.C. liked me so much that after a couple of days, he offered me all of the information he had. I’m so glad that I looked at the material, even though I didn’t vibe with that community. Boy, was I wrong!. There was a lot of good information from that society. 

Anyway, one of the great writers I came across was a guy named Rollo Tomassi. He wrote a book series called The Rational Male. If you haven’t read it, I suggest that you do!

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While reading Tomassi’s work, I first came across the manosphere term “Red Pill.” I will let him explain the meaning of Red Pill in the manosphere:

“First of all, these are again abstract terms. The red pill, as a sort of terminology, was created or was like it got bounced around back in the day in the seduction communities in the seduction forums. And we didn’t really call it “red pill” at that time, we said ‘unplugging from the matrix’. Because I believed all these things about women, I’ve been playing by the rules, I’ve been playing by the old set (of you know) rule book, and I’ve got nothing but…I’m single and sexless, and [it] doesn’t work for me kind of thing. And I believed all this stuff, and then when men understand their own nature, and they understand women’s nature, and they understand intersexual dynamics between the two of them, then they sort of pull themselves out of this Matrix. And they start putting themselves into..came out of the gaming community, meaning, like, pick-up artists and stuff, of the early 2000’s, which evolved into what we call the manosphere, what we call the red pill right now. 

“The red pill is a praxeology, it is not an ideology. I got to make that clear right now…Praxeology is the study of human behavior with the knowledge that that behavior has a purpose or an intent to it. By the way, I’m lifting that term from socioeconomic terms. That’s not even some red pill thing we pulled out of our asses here. So the red pill to me, anyways, is from 2004…when we started using the term red pill. And red pill was, uh, (how) I used to think about women and dating and intersexual dynamics and love and this and everything in one way, and now that I’ve learned game, now that I’ve learned intersexual dynamics, I think about things in a different way. And so what happened along the way since that time, I went back and I looked at my forum posts from as far back as 2002 or 2005. I’ve been doing this a long time, about 20 years now. I look back at that, and I go, that’s the first instance of me using the term red pill way back in 2004. And now what’s happened is it gets bastardized because everyone wants to (use it). Because it’s the popular term online, on the internet. People want to use it for their political ideologies, their personal ideologies, their religion, whatever it is that is, ‘I used to think stupid false stuff,’ and now I think the right stuff. So [the] truth is, whatever the red pill is for your pet ideology. And that’s why I have to say that the red pill, as far as intersexual dynamics and the way that it was originally intended, it’s a praxeology in that we’re going to go out into the field, we’re going to take notes. We’re like Jane Goodall or [Dian] Fossey on, you know, Gorillas in the [Mist], looking at ‘Let’s study the humans’. And so we come back, we create [a] hypothesis from that, we test those in the field through game or whatever. Like, red pill or red pill awareness is the theory, and game ends up being the practice of it. And each one is incomplete without the other. Because one informs the other. That’s really what the red pill was about. 

“So when people say, what’s the red pill to you?[,] well, it’s intersexual dynamics. It’s not politics because we kept hearing this all the time, like when Trump was running for office. By the way, Candace Owens, her old Twitter handle, used to be Red Pill Black, ok. Because it was a popular term in politics. What’s an MRA? Men’s rights activist. What’s a MGTOW? Men going their own way. What’s the Black Pill? What’s the White Pill? What’s the Purple Pill? What’s this pill? What’s your mom’s pill? 

“And so I always come back to the red pill. Because what happens is, right now, it gets cast as this ideology, ‘Oh, those red pill guys believe this!’ It’s not a belief set. It is a…database…it’s [a] knowledge base. It’s like a Chilton manual for intersexual dynamics and understanding women’s nature and understanding men’s nature. So when people ask me, what’s red pill?, I can’t give you an elevator pitch for it. I can’t do it in 3 minutes. Because there’s so much attached to it. It’s about sex. It’s about politics. It’s about personal relationships. It’s about families. It’s about raising kids. It’s about, I mean, you think of all the things that are attached to sexual dynamics in the micro level all the way up to the macro level—that’s the red pill. All of that is the red pill. And people lock in on something that, like, uh, conflicts with their personal convictions and ideologies, and they go, ‘Well, the only way I can do it myself is to turn that into an ideology.’ And now, therefore, I can actually deal with it, and I can, like, come up with some sort of counter to that, rather than looking at the numbers and the data and everything else that comes, which sometimes it’s depressing. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that stuff. But you have to remember that once you get into that and you understand the numbers and the stats, that it’s not as depressing as you think it is. It’s just that you don’t have the creativity, you don’t understand how to leverage it to your best advantage. It comes later on, but when people first become aware of the red pill, or they become aware of the intersectional dynamics of their own and women’s, it can become a tough pill to swallow…” -Rollo Tomassi

And what is the Blue Pill? 

“…The blue pill is your old set of your old-order way of thinking…it’s, uh, stay[ing] in what has been, uh, the old rule set. The 20th-century way of thinking about, like, say, dating, for example…I’m constantly dealing with conflicts of people who are idealizing, say, marriage or dating, and their ideal is cast in a 20th-century old-order understanding of what that is. That’s blue pill. We live in the 21st century, where the rules have changed. And if you don’t know the rule set and you’re gonna be like, well, we were playing by this rule set, you know, the 20th century, the blue pill rule set, and you guys are playing an entirely different game. And I can’t win because I don’t know anything about this ruleset. The new-order way of thinking about things. That’s the 21st-century way of doing it.” -Rollo Tomassi

(Source: YouTube: Valuetainment short clips: Rollo Tomassi Reveals the Truth About Red Pill vs. Blue Pill)

Conclusion: Distilled Meaning

According to Rollo Tomassi, the red pill refers to intersexual dynamics—in essence, how male and female relationships really work when observed objectively. It is the reality of how women move in life when it comes to men. Women don’t want you to know this because once you have been unplugged from the B.S., they can’t manipulate you like they usually can. So a male who’s Red Pill is a person who has been awakened to the true intersexual dynamics of the male and female in relationships.

The Blue pill is your old naive way of thinking when it comes to women and relationships that places you at a disadvantage when it comes to women. This is taught to you by your mother and other women, and at times, by your blue-pilled father or the blue-pilled males in your life. In essence, a guy who’s Blue Pilled is still asleep in the “matrix,” which is a dream world of naive philosophies concerning how women operate when it comes to intersexual relationships with the opposite sex: males!

Why Does Most Online Manosphere Content Focus So Much On Women? There Are Other Subjects in That World.

Why does most online Manosphere content focus so much on the female species? Because men are online searching for answers. They’ve lost a girl, or their marriage imploded, with them holding the bill. They want answers. They are slowly coming to a realization:

If you don’t get a decent understanding of the female nature and how to deal with them, they can ruin or destroy your life!

And I don’t just mean romantically. To understand:

  • Your mother
  • Your sisters
  • Your female relatives
  • Your female friends
  • Your female colleagues
  • Women whom you have to deal with in business
  • Your female bosses
  • Your woman/wife
  • Your daughters
  • Etc.

You must develop a decent understanding of them. They are all around you. Once you understand the female nature, you will be so successful in life. If you don’t, you will have serious problems. 

A Rule to Understand

I can’t remember when the Creator blessed me with this revelation, but I’m sure it was after my marriage fell apart. The principle that was revealed to me was:

All women desire to be known.

What do I mean? Let me prove my point. Do you have a mother? Do you have a sister? Do you have a woman? If you think about it, all of these women expect us to know:

  • Their birthdays
  • Their favorite color
  • Their favorite flower (or the fact that they don’t like flowers)
  • Their favorite perfume scents
  • Their shoe size
  • Their favorite song
  • Their favorite TV show
  • A change in hairstyle
  • Whether they’re sad (without them having to tell us)
  • Etc.

Now, if you are in a romantic relationship, she expects you to also know:

  • Her bra size
  • Her lingerie size
  • Her panty size
  • Her dreams
  • Her fears
  • Her secrets
  • Her favorite foods
  • Her body and how to get her “there”
  • Etc.

When she feels SAFE with you, she will usually reveal EVERYTHING to you—even the darkest parts about herself. When you, as her lover/husband, don’t know or have forgotten those things, she gets frustrated with you. Why? Because, as a woman, she has an innate desire that you know her and know her fully.

“…My whole body melted because he ‘saw me.’ Really saw me. That kind of exposure is intoxicating. It makes us weak. It makes us lean in because we’re not used to men who notice more than our curves. The man who undresses our minds owns more of us than the man who only reaches for our body. We’ll deny it. We’ll roll our eyes. We’ll pretend it didn’t hit us. But deep down, that kind of emotional nakedness is the most arousing of all because it feels like surrender without us even choosing it…” -Jessica Opare (YouTube: Whisper of wisdom: 11 secret pleasures women have but hide from men) 

As I said, a woman, by her nature, wants to be known by the man in her life. 

To be Continued…

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