Jada
When she got into the business, she was eventually linked with Dalvin from Jodeci. Then it was Grant Hill. Then she dated Wesley Snipes. Then eventually it was Will Smith. But how did they meet? How did they start dating? Let’s go further.
Will Smith made his acting debut on the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. He first met Jada Pinkett as she tried out for a role on the show. Jada auditioned for a role on the show, but lost the role to Nia Long.
When he saw her on the t.v. show A Different World, he realized how attractive he found her. The next time he saw her, he asked her if she was seeing anyone. When she said “no”, he told her, “You are now.” And that’s how they started seeing each other. While dating though, he was still separated from his first wife. Her mother told her to stay away from him while he finalized his divorce. She dated him anyway. He was soon divorced.
Tupac died on September 13, 1996. The following year, she got pregnant. Will, being the stand-up man that he was, decided that it was best for them to get married. Jada’s mother also agreed that they should get married so that she wouldn’t be a single mother. The only person that didn’t want to get married was Jada. So she went along with it…even though she didn’t want to get married. They got married on December 31, 1997. He was 29 years old. She was 26. And keep in mind that she was probably still grieving over the man that she loved so much…Tupac. And there hadn’t been any closure between them ( they hadn’t spoken for two years because of their disagreements about his new lifestyle-Death Row).
Not only did Jada not want to get married, but she did not want a typical wedding. It was Will that pressured her into a traditional wedding. He wrote in his book, “This would be the first of many compromises Jada would make over the years that painfully negated her own values.” They married in Baltimore. In a Red Table Talk, Jada said she was so upset the whole day due to the pregnancy and not wanting that wedding that she cried all the way down the aisle because she was being forced to do something she didn’t want to do! So the marriage was wrong from the beginning!
She wasn’t even thrilled about taking on his name. In a FB post, she wrote that she feared she would be criticized for failing to be an independent woman by sticking to tradition. She eventually compromised by hyphenating her last name to Jada Pinkett-Smith
She wasn’t even thrilled about being a mother at that time. I now see that it probably interrupted her vision of her career and again…she was probably being pushed into a direction that she didn’t want to go down, but because she was advised that this is what married women do, she went along with it. Once you understand this, you can see some of her sadness and her issues with her husband. He’s a man that wanted to get married and build a family, and these were the things she was not ready to do at that time!
His giving was never enough…
Things got even worse when he decided to buy a large 256-acre Calibaset estate for his family. She didn’t want to live in such a big house.
The birthday
When Will Smith told this story at the Red Table (and eventually in his book), he hinted that his intent for what he was going to do concerning her 40th birthday was to get her out of a midlife crises that “Mommy” was having. It was a three-year plan that he started after her 37th birthday.
For three years, he researched her lineage going all the way back to slavery. He had this commissioned as a documentary.
He also planned to fly her along with 40 of her friends overseas to this party that he set up. This event was supposed to be for three days. Also, he had her favorite performer, Mary J. Blige, perform at this birthday bash.
He said that, while the documentary was being shown, everyone in the room cried, especially the women. The women said they wished their husband did the same for them. Everyone was emotional about the documentary and his showing of love to his wife for her 40th birthday but one person…Jada.
He didn’t say anything until they got back to the hotel. He asked her what was wrong. That’s when she told him something he wasn’t expecting. She told him, “That was the most disgusting display of ego I have ever seen in my life.” Will was shocked. He thought he was being the perfect husband. But Jada was pissed. They had an explosive fight. She also told him whatever else he had planned to cancel it. He was done. He said he was retiring from trying to make her happy. They supposedly separated after that. This happened in 2011. They eventually reconciled.
Now place everything in that scope, and her behavior over the years makes complete sense.
3)Open Marriage
In a GQ interview, Will explained that, at some point, their relationship stopped being monogamous. Reason being was that Jada never believed in a conventional marriage. He said she didn’t come from a family that did conventional marriages. But he came from that kind of structure.
The Funny thing is, to many in the black community, we were already aware they had some sort of open marriage. That rumor has lingered for decades when it came to Will and Jada. But hey…that’s so common in Hollywood life. So they coming forward in interviews just confirmed what we already knew. Concerning marriage, Will would say:
“We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way, and marriage for us can’t be a prison.”
In 2018, Will Smith told Rap Radar that he and Jada no longer referred to themselves as married. Instead, they described themselves as life partners. He said, “There’s no deal breakers. There’s nothing she could do-ever-nothing that would break our relationship. She has my support ‘til death, and it feels so good to get to that space.”
4)Red Table Talk (redtabletalk.com)
Red Table Talk is a talk show started by Jada Pinkett Smith that starred her daughter Willow Smith and her mother, Gammy. It started on May 7, 2018, and is in its 4th season at this time. Facebook Watch is the platform this show is seen on.
As a matter of fact, since doing my research, I have found out that the original Table Talk has spawned a spinoff titled Red Table Talk: The Estefans, which is led by the famous Cuban singer Gloria Estefan, and her family, Emily Estefan and Lilli Estefan. Apparently, the premise for the show is that it’s a forum where the three different generations of women share their individual perspectives of their individual generation.
In my opinion, this is basically a woman’s talk show. Yes, males do visit the show from time to time, but the perspectives are from a woman’s point of view. I don’t know of any guy that really watches it, unless their woman is watching it in their presence. I’ve only watched the Entanglement episode because it was all over the place (new wise). And if I see a clip somewhere and it catches my attention, then I’ll watch it.
The Problem
The problem with this show is that Jada brings the personal business of the family to the Table. If Will Smith is like me,
- I don’t want my personal business in the public.
- I don’t want the personal affairs of my marriage in the public.
- I don’t want my children’s business in the public.
- And to be honest, I don’t even like women who discuss their personal business in public. Because it drags me into it, and I don’t care for a woman who can discuss their intimate past publicly. That’s so crass to me.
But I feel as if I understand Jada Pinkett a little better. She had her dream of being a star before she met Will Smith. Her career has had to take a back seat to her family and Will Smith’s career. This has been a serious problem for her. And I sense that she’s fiercely independent. So she, as an independent woman, has suffered a lot. In a way, she has lost a lot of herself and her identity. And to be honest, her career hasn’t developed as well as Will’s. So I understand why Will cosigned this. Jada needed her own thing. Her own creation. And The Red Table Talk is her baby. So he had to allow it, even though it would violate how he lived his life.
If you study Will Smith’s past, you can see that he carefully manicured his image to the public for over 20 years. Hell, when he began his career as a rapper, he didn’t even curse! He was always the clean-cut guy. He had a vision for his career and his family, and he methodically crafted his image. The only thing that has given his image hiccups is his wife and the children that he produced from her.
So all the bullshit that he has had to deal with the last couple of years have come from his wife and her show. And the problem is that he’s upset that he’s getting clowned about his inadequacies within his marriage. Bro, nobody wanted to know your personal affairs…your wife put your bullshit out there. Youtuber , Kevin Wesley, in The Truth Factory said it well when he said:
“She is exposing her family secrets literally for ad revenue. Which is showing you that she does not care about anybody but herself.” -Kevin Wesley The truth Factory
(A deeper look into Jada and Will Smith part 2)
Joe Rogan’s comment on his show about Will assaulting Chris and hurling vulgar comments on live tv ties into Will’s family discussing their personal affairs on tv:
Joe Rogan: …And everyone is going to sit there, in the shit that you took on the table. You just pulled your pants down and took a shit on the dinner table. And they all have to sit there and look at that. That’s what it’s like.
Josh Barnett: Shit full of peanuts and corn…everything…
Joe Rogan: It stinks…
Will is bothered…
To build her show, she is using the personal business of the family to do it. And It’s creating a problem. In a recent video that leaked, you begin to see that Will doesn’t like his image being abused by Jada:
Jada: You know that …Esther is coming to the table. She’s going to be at the Red Table. Would you say she has been instrumental to you and I redefining our relationship?
Will: I would say, don’t just start filming me without asking me if you can film me.
Jada: Oh my goodness. Esther Perrell, can you come and help us again please? I’m still dealing with foolishness…
Will: Don’t. No, no. She. Cause she …Don’t just…
Jada: Would you say that she helped us heal the hurts that we caused between one another?
Will: My social media presence is my bread and butter, ok? So you can’t just use me for social media and not…you know…don’t just start rolling. I’m standing in my house. Don’t just start rolling.
Jada: Please watch Esther at the Red Table. Because she’s helped us a lot, can’t you tell?
To be continued…Pt. 6…Entanglement…
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