#4: A woman who really wants a man doesn’t mind where he takes her.

Recently, I watched an on-the-street interview with a beautiful Latina. She was somewhere between her 20s and 40s. The guy asked her the typical question: “How much do you expect a guy to spend on your first date?” She smiled so beautifully and basically said, “It doesn’t matter to me how much he spends if I like him. I just want to spend time with him. I don’t care even if it’s McDonald’s! I just want to spend time with him.” 

Later, she talked about her parents. That was when it dawned on me: She had been raised right. Her parents gave her morals. This, my friends, is the problem with today’s young women. They lack this.

#5 You have chosen the wrong tools.

The documentary American Pimp revealed that pimps have “tools” to catch the attention of women. What is a tool? According to vocabulary.com, “A tool is an instrument that you use to help you accomplish some task…”.

Their tools are tailor-made/high-end suits, high-end shoes and clothing, jewelry, manicured hands (hair and skin), luxury cars, gift of speech, etc. To thrive in that game, you must keep your tools sharp.

Meanwhile, in the square life (regular hard-working citizens), we men have different tools to “catch” women. Some of the tools that come to mind are:

  1. Spiritual Guy: This is the guy who’s well-versed in the Bible. He is a “church guy.” When in the presence of “church women,” he mesmerizes them with his spiritual brilliance. The way he talks about scripture captivates her. She’s never met a guy like him. Is he the one? This is what he uses to catch the attention of these types of women. He hunts for church women, and he runs through a lot of them.
  2. Ivy League Guy: He’s gone to an Ivy League school. He brings this up in conversation when he talks to her. She has dreamed of marrying this type of guy and creating Ivy League children. He knows where she’ll hang out, and she knows where he’ll hang out. Her eyes get glittery when he begins talking about his Ivy League days and espouses his Ivy League ideas.
  3. Intellectual Guy: The intellectual guy is well-read. College or not, his mind is well cultivated. He’s refined. He catches well-educated women because he’s not intimidated by their brilliance. A woman’s panties just melt off when she meets his mind. She usually has to hide her intelligence so as not to intimidate men. She can be herself around him. 
  4. Material Possessions Guy: These are the guys with the Rolexes, sports cars, and Benzes. Everything is high-end. This is how they catch girls. I have several friends like this. They spend on material things and they spare no expense on dates. 
  5. Man in Uniform Guy: The man in uniform can be in the military, a police officer, a fireman, etc. These guys know that women are attracted to men in uniform. The uniform is a sign of authority, and women are drawn to it. This man will use his uniform to get women. Note: Women are very forward to men in uniform. One of my friends is a cop, and women have approached him so that he can screw them in his cop car or get handcuffed before getting screwed. 
  6. Entertainer Guy: He’s a singer or actor. Many women are drawn to him. He doesn’t have to work to get them. It is said that you don’t have to be attractive if you are a singer. The women will come to you. These guys – singers in particular – run through many women in their careers!
  7. “Good Looks” Guy: He’s the good-looking guy. Women swoon for him. He doesn’t have to try hard. I’ve been around these guys, and they really don’t have to do much work, as the women come to them. He’s aware of his looks and keeps himself sharp. He uses this tool to get women.
  8. Bad Boy: Mr. Bad Boy is a gangster, biker, drug dealer, etc. He lives by the code of the streets. I know many women, even professional women, who date only bad boys. They marry them and have children with them. No other man attracts her like the bad guy does. She melts around him. He just has to be himself. Many of her work colleagues, who are just as educated as she is, ask her out. She might try to date them, but they just don’t “do it” for her. They don’t move her…They don’t captivate her. They’re too soft. Her soul knows what she needs. If she marries this nice guy, when the bad boy comes along, she will sneak off to “play with” him. The only time I’ve seen them give this guy up is when they’ve suffered a lot from his lifestyle and he isn’t responsible for his children. That’s when she’ll settle down. But her boy knows what she yearns for: a Bad Boy!
  9. Name Drop Guy: A young lady I met told me that her first child’s father attracted her at a party because of his educational background and his name-dropping. She was attracted by the people he knew. That’s why she wanted to get to know him. She told me this. Until that day, I didn’t know that name-dropping worked. I’d seen it in movies and seen guys attempt to use it, but here was a very attractive woman telling me that it worked on her. 
  10. Politician: He’s into politics. He might have extensive knowledge of it, or he participates in it. He has dreams of changing the world, and this turns her on. Many women are attracted to these guys and date only these guys. I’ve read that when Hillary met Bill Clinton, she was dating someone else. Once she got a glimpse of his mind and his political aspirations, she dumped that guy and got with Bill. 
  11. Etc.

There are other tools that men use: the bodybuilder, the in-shape guy, the guy who comes from a good family, the businessman, the funny guy, the well-dressed guy, etc. But you get the point: They know what they have and they use their tools to get women.

Conclusion

Why do I bring this up? Because…What you did to get her is what you have to do to keep her. If you are one of those guys for whom your tool is your material items, you are leading with this. You attract the wrong kind of women in your life. She’s materialistic. You are probably materialistic too. Because you started like this, you must remain like this. Naturally, she believes that if he spends like this, other material things will come as well. 

If you evolve this relationship, you are attaching yourself to a materialistic parasite. She demands high-level things. If you marry her, guess what she’s going to produce? Miniature versions of herself. You’ve multiplied a leech. And they’ll eat through your assets. 

The biggest mistakes a man can make are:

  1. Date the wrong woman (or have her in your life)
  2. Marry the wrong woman
  3. Make a child with the wrong woman

Be objective in your dating. If a woman comes at you with that kind of B.S., as if it’s beneath her to eat at a decent establishment, drop her ass home. There are incredible women out there who’d love for men to treat them like women and not lead them on because they’re broke. 

Remember: Be a man!