What’s the Internet saying? Entitled?
I follow many “manosphere” social media pages. I also follow several women who are in the manosphere and just women who are fair and objective. It has been interesting to see the comments on their pages and the comments of others.
One of the gentlemen I follow, by the Instagram handle of @whoiskalibur, reviewed the video and called her ENTITLED! Entitled? Well, what’s the definition of “entitled”? One definition is:
ENTITLED: Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of special treatment and privileges. – Oxford.com
As a matter of fact, after playing the video, @whoiskalibur said, “This, ladies and gentlemen, in my humble opinion, is the definition of entitlement. Like I was asking before, what’s wrong with The Cheesecake Factory? The last time I went to The Cheesecake Factory, the food was good. It’s a first date, for crying out loud! Like, did she expect this dude to roll out the red carpet like he was Aladdin and take her on a magic carpet ride?”
Accept things for what they are
After living life for a certain period of time, going through a failed marriage, and dating a lot of women, I’ve learned to accept things as they are. What do I mean? I mean that I accept women’s behaviors and statements as they happen in real time.
Many times, we see the signs (i.e., bad signs) and don’t want to see them (accept them). Many times, being young and lacking experience with women (in other words, not having the hours of experience), we are unable to read their actions and statements. We don’t have the wisdom to interpret what we are seeing! This wisdom comes with time and purposeful reflection and education on female nature.
Whether you are seasoned or unseasoned, this will hit home for you. If you’re not seasoned, you can watch these jewels play out in real time as you observe female nature. Here are a couple of jewels that I’ve learned about women:
Jewel #1: When you first begin to date a woman, the person you are meeting is usually a mask. That’s not who she is. You are meeting her representative. She’s probably hiding things about herself that she knows men won’t find attractive. Usually, once she feels that she has you in love, “pussy struck,” or caught up in the confines of marriage (i.e., marriage contract, pregnancy, and property), she’ll begin to show you who she is. Most women are not devious…They just need security!
Jewel #2: No matter how they try to hide themselves, if you listen to subtleties (what’s not being said, how she treats people, and how she acts), you can get a deeper understanding of who you’re dealing with.
Jewel #3: The unseen manifests itself through the physical world. No matter how much people try to hide themselves, the physical reality manifests a lot.
Jewel #4: Always believe their actions over their words.
Note: To be fair, usually, both sexes are wearing a “mask” when they interact with the opposite sex for the first time. The danger is, we tend to be doing things to bed her. She’s trying to get security—emotional security and physical security (marriage, a house, and your assets if things go bad…which they do 50% of the time, and in the Western world today, she declares divorce approximately 70% of the time in no-fault divorces).
I note all of that to say the following: This woman revealed herself to you. This is usually not normal. I appreciate her. She showed herself. Get the hell away from her.
There Are Levels to This…
She was embarrassed to go to The Cheesecake Factory. She felt disrespected that he’d take her to a chain restaurant. A chain restaurant? First of all, what is a chain restaurant?
Touch.bistro.com offers this definition:
“A chain restaurant is a business with four or more locations.”
And they’re all owned by the same company.
Vehicles
In America, there are levels to everything. When I think of vehicles, I think of:
- Basic (Ford, GMC, Chrysler, Toyota, Honda, Hyundai, etc.)
- Mid level (Volvo, Subaru, etc.)
- Luxury level (Mercedes, BMW, Audi, Lexus, Infinity, Acura, etc.)
- Really high level (Rolls Royce, Ferrari, Bentley, Bugatti, etc.)
(Note: Pardon if I’ve made any errors.)
Watches
- Basic: Seiko, Timex, etc.
- Mid level: Movado, Bulova, Hamilton, Tissot, Tudor, etc.
- Luxury level: Rolex, Omega, Hublot, IWC, Audemir Piguet, Patek Philippe, Breitling, BlancPain, etc.
Colleges
There’s a level to the game. We do this with educational institutions too. The institution you go to can impact your career! But, of course, nothing builds drive! The college levels typically seen in the U.S. are as follows from least to greatest:
- Community colleges
- Universities
- Ivy League universities and military colleges (i.e., West Point, Annapolis Naval Academy, United States Air Force Academy)
Restaurants
Just like with these other subjects, there are levels in the food business. From my observation, there are basic, mid-level, high, and goddam high!
Basic Restaurants, aka Fast Food Restaurants
When I think of basic food eateries, I’m thinking of fast food restaurants. The prices are typically reasonable (even though the prices have gone up). Fast food restaurants are as follows: McDonald’s, Burger King, Five Guys, KFC, Popeyes, Wendy’s, Pizza Hut, Domino’s, Wingstop, Buffalo Wild Wings, Taco Bell, Chipotle, Papa John’s Pizza, Little Caesars Pizza, Lido’s Pizza, Subway, Sonic, Red Robin, Long John Silver’s, Chick-fil-A, Checkers, Arby’s, Waffle House, Golden Corral, Church’s Chicken, White Castle, Chili’s Grill and Bar, Hiphop Fish and Chicken, Dairy Queen, Bob Evans, etc.
Casual Dining
Casual dining restaurants are sit-in restaurants that don’t require formal attire.
Mid level restaurant
BJ’s Restaurant and Brewhouse, The Cheesecake Factory, TGI Friday’s, Ruby Tuesday, California Pizza Chicken, P.F. Chang’s, Maggiano’s, LongHorn Steakhouse, Panera Bread, Carrabba’s, Texas Roadhouse, Dennys, Boston Market, Bonefish Grill, Ted Montana’s, etc.
High level restaurant
Fogo de Chao, Texas De Brazil, Shula’s Steakhouse, Fleming’s, Ruth’s Chris Steak House, Morton’s Steak House, Masters, Wolfgang’s, Smith and Wollensky, Del Frisco’s Double Eagle Steakhouse, The Capital Grille, etc.
Fine Dining, aka Michelin Star
In the fine dining realm, there is a rating system known as the Michelin Star. What comes with this rating is a certain level of respectability, and it’s usually expensive. These types of restaurants usually have a dress code. Formal wear – not casual clothing – is usually the standard. You are typically given several courses in this meal. The ratings are from one star to three stars. One star is for high-quality cooking worth a stop. Two stars is for excellent cooking worth a detour. Three stars is for exceptional cuisine worth a special journey. The reviews are based on the quality of the food, the service, and the consistency of both. Michelin publishes Red Guides showing the restaurants that meet their standard. Currently, there are eight Red Guides in publication, covering four continents and 30 countries.
Some Michelin-rated restaurants are as follows: Eleven Madison Park, The French Laundry, Per Se, Alimea, Le Bernardin, Benu, The Inn at Little Washington, Masa, Quince, Saison, Addison, Daniel, Providence, Bok, Acquerello, Atelier Cren, Jean-Georges, etc.
My Recent Adventure at The Cheesecake Factory
After this cheesecake fiasco hit the internet, I realized that I hadn’t visited The Cheesecake Factory in a while. So one day after work, I went straight there to have dinner…by myself.
The service was great, as usual. The place was classy and the dinner was great. By myself, before the tip, I spent $60.27. Along with the 18% tip, it came to $71.12. All I ordered was lemonade ($4.95), an appetizer Caesar salad ($13.95), and a rib-eye steak ($37.95).
If I had taken my lady out, I would have easily spent over $100 before the tip. I already knew this. Since the 90s, I’ve been going to The Cheesecake Factory, and I’ve always approached $100 when dating a woman. This also goes for LongHorn Steakhouse and Bonefish Grill. So if a woman gets out of complaining to me, I’m taking her ass home. Abort the date.
My Advice
#1: Don’t start what you can’t finish.
What I learned from marriage counseling sessions
My ex dragged me to approximately four marriage counselors during our marriage. One was Muslim, one was Christian, and one was a professional. (The other one…I can’t remember.) I hated it because the sessions were pretty much “blame Moeh” events. Don’t get me started. But the beauty in all those different sessions was that I learned something so profound that it changed my life.
Every counselor told me the same thing. What they told me made me realize that I had created a monster at the beginning of my marriage and that I was wrong to change. They all said the following:
“What you did to get her is what you have to do to keep her.”
To be continued…
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