Will Smith Violated Manhood pt. 3

Was Will Smith wrong or right?

As I said, my colleagues went back and forth about this question.  Furthermore, many women that I know…that I respect, asked me in my DMs if I agreed with Will Smith’s actions.  What’s fascinating is that they all agreed with Will’s actions!  Even my sister agreed with his action.  And to all of them…I answered…

 

 “Will Smith was dead wrong!”

 

As a matter of fact, I told all of them:

 

‘Will Smith was dead wrong because he violated manhood.  He acted unmanly.”

 

Let me explain.  To my sister and the women that I respect, I told them:

“I understand why you feel as if Will Smith was correct.  It is in your nature to desire to feel protected. When your nature kicks in, you desire your man to tear the world in half.  Unfortunately, because of your FEELINGS, many males that follow suit to your wishful demands end up killing someone…and they end up in prison for the rest of their lives, while you move on your merry way with the next guy on top of you and their kids calling that guy daddy.  Or vice versa (your guy ends up dead and the other guy in prison).

 He was wrong because he violated manhood.  And I know that you don’t know a damn thing about manhood…and it’s sad to see that many guys don’t have a damn clue what the hell manhood is.  I was the same…until I was taught the basic fundamentals of manhood.  Let me explain…”

 

 

Manhood Violation: Responding vs. Reacting

First of all, I see nothing wrong with killing another man to protect my family.  A man is made to protect.  I don’t even have a problem giving a guy a “hard reset” for dishonoring my wife or children.  But at the academy awards, all Hollywood stars get roasted.  All the stars know they will get roasted.  That’s a part of that society.  Here’s a quote from Joe Rogan discussing the event:

“Chris Rock was doing his fucking job.  You don’t go and sit in the front row.  You’re a star at the Oscars.  There’s a professional comedian whose job is to roast people.  That’s what he’s doing. And what he did was not even insulting. It was a mild joke.” –Joe Rogan

 

Understand the environment you’re in.  Everyone got roasted that evening…as usual.  And apparently, earlier that evening, another star made a joke about the Smith’s ENTANGLEMENT issue! But I digress.

 

 The way of men is to respond…not to react…

In the world of men, our code of conduct is to deal with issues and even conflict with Logic.  We deal with life and circumstances with Reason.  This is the conduct of men.  To React in life means you have now inclined towards emotion, which is unmanly. This is not our way.

Since this is the natural inclination of the woman, this means, when you as a man React to life, you have become emotional, which means you have drifted into a feminine state.   

 

 

My mentor said it like this:

“When an individual is in a confrontation with me, and he’s roaring (yelling) and he’s emotional, the reason it’s not necessary for me to go back and forth with that individual is because I’m viewing him as a female.  Because he’s acting out of his emotion.  So a lot of these guys were raised by their mothers…they saw their mothers deal with situations emotionally.  Acting a certain kind of way through emotion.  Because they didn’t have a man around to tell them that men don’t act like that. That men, reason.  Men think things through.  Because men feel that this is not important enough  to get emotional about it, ‘I need to think things through.’  That’s what men do.  But if you don’t have a father around expressing to you and telling you that’s what men do, you’re going to act according to what you’ve seen growing up from a baby all the way up into adulthood. 

So when I see an individual and he’s quick to react in emotion, I already know because I was raised by a man…but because I had manhood around me, I understood that acting a certain kind of way was unmanly.  So if I had a person coming at me and he was roaring, well, he’s operating out of his womanhood.  He might not know it, but because I’ve been around a man, I know it.  So it would be a disadvantage  to start going back and forth, because he’s mastered that woman stuff.  I know nothing about it, but what I’ve seen in a woman…”– Andre Taylor (Beware of Girly Men)

 

 

 

 

Anyway, let us get back to Will Smith.  Let’s look at his apology statement  that he made the next day after the Oscars:

 

“Violence in all its forms is poisonous and destructive.  My behavior at last night’s Academy Awards was unacceptable and inexcusable.  Jokes at my expense are a part of the job, but a joke about Jada’s medical condition was too much for me to bear, and I reacted emotionally.

I would like to publicly apologize to you, Chris.  I was out of line, and I was wrong….

 

He revealed the state that he was in.  He wasn’t in Reason mode…he was in reaction mode,  which means that he was in emotion mode, which means he was on autopilot with his emotions.  This is dangerous.  Why is it dangerous? 

First of all, when you’re in emotional mode, the person, group, or institution that you’re against (or competing with) can now manipulate you because you’re not thinking anymore.  You’re in your feelings.  Many men have lost their lives because they were in their emotional state.  Once you are in your emotional state, the following can happen to you as a man:

•     You can lose your job or career.
•     You can lose business opportunities.
•     You can forever lose relationships because of things you’ve said and did while acting out emotionally.
•     You can lose your life.
•     You can take someone’s life while in your emotional state.
•     You can throw away your life in prison.
•     You can be permanently banned from societies.
•     You can impact the lives of the people that you love because of your emotions.
•     Etc. 

 

Crashing Down…

There is a famous quote…I can’t remember the actual quote, but it says that a reputation takes a long time to build and can come crashing down overnight by one mistake.  Will Smith.  I’ve watched this guy build a wonderful reputation since 1989. And in one night, he really hurt his reputation.  

 

Because he is the foundation, his actions will impact others around him…

Not only that, because he is a part of our society…manhood…then by divine order, he is the foundation of his family and those around him.  What do I mean?  Well, since he is the foundation of the Will Smith Clan, he is the provider of his family.  He just messed up millions of dollars that was to go to take care of his wife, children, mother, and others. 

 

I also stated that several movies have been suspended as of this week because of his actions.  Not only that, but all of the people that were supposed to work on those sets, actors/actresses included, will now be out of work.  The film that he just won an award for…people MAY not rent it or watch it in protest because he assaulted a person live on TV. 

 As a man, what was the proper way to handle it?

Now, what is the proper way to handle the situation as men?  That’s a good question.  The first answer is:

Not the damn way your woman tells you to handle it!

 

Now don’t get me wrong, some of us are actually blessed with rational women in our lives, and we are the “live wires”.  But since I’ve continued to see the emotional responses from women…being in support of Will’s actions, it needs to be clarified.  I will list a couple of ways to have dealt with the situation. 

 

RULE #1:  Under no circumstances do you attack anyone live on tv on stage at the damn Oscars.  You are an actor.  Your job is to be an actor.  Doing something like this shows you have no emotional control, which is dangerous for that industry.  When millions of dollars are invested in a project, they have to make sure you are not such a risk that you can destroy an entire project.  Eventually, you risk ruining your career and being blackballed from the industry.  And once that happens, you will never work in Hollywood again.  You’d be surprised how many of your favorite actors are blackballed today because of their behavior or difficulty to work with.

 

1)Even though the joke was slight and everyone is supposed to get roasted in that event, if my woman was to get offended…or if she was insecure about the comment, I’d probably look Chris in his eyes and make the gesture “to cut it out”.  My coworkers and I do this all the time to each other when we think someone is being offended but is not saying anything.  The person knows to stop it.  If they continue, then they get whatever they get.  But if he stopped, then I’d get up and go behind the curtains and tell him as a man that she’s going through something and you offended her.  Most men would either apologize to her face or go on stage and apologize in public.  

 

2)If she was offended, he could have stood up and said out loud to “cut it out”. 

 

3)He could have gone backstage and inquired if he was aware of his wife’s alopecia.  If he said that he was aware of her issue and did not give a damn…or if he didn’t give a damn at all, then he could have given him a “hard reset” backstage or handled it after the awards show off-camera.   

 Was It To Protect His Wife, or Did He Just Snap?

Many of the women that I spoke to believe Will Smith was protecting his wife.  And this is why he snapped.  But was it?  I think it’s bullshit.  Will Smith was fine with the joke…until he saw his wife.  These people have been in the business for over two decades. They understand the culture of the Oscars.  They know they’re going to get roasted.  Frankly, if I felt some kind of way that night, I wouldn’t have come.  For seasoned people in the business, they knew the culture. 

 

But Will Smith, for the first time on TV, came off the hinges.  The question is why?  I wasn’t going to discuss the elephant in the room…but since many people who didn’t really know Will Smith did some digging because they suspected he was going through something and found what I already knew, they clarified what I suspected all along.  Will Smith may have possibly exploded because of all the bullshit he’s had to deal with the last couple of years concerning his wife putting their dirty laundry on TV.  And his children…Let’s take a look under the hood.  Let’s look at the possible catalyst for his explosion. 

 

On the same podcast,  Jocko Willink evaluates celebrities slapping each other [Will Smith and Chris Rock]. Jocko reveals what he learned about the couple’s marriage and brought some psychology into the equation to explain Will Smith’s actions:

 

“You ever heard that thing, ‘It’s ok to punch up, but it’s not ok to punch down?’  You’re not allowed to make fun of…and I mean this sincerely, you shouldn’t be making fun of someone who’s …in a less powerful position than you…

But it’s generally more ok for someone to take shots at someone who’s above them.  And why is that?  Because the person is in a position of power.  He can shrug it off.  This room is filled with all people that are all rich and famous, including Will Smith and his wife.  She’s an actress too.  So she’s famous.  But Will Smith slapped him upside the head.  But why is that?

…Immediately I thought, he has some issues.  He probably has some issues with his wife.  I know nothing about this dude.  But in the replay, he was laughing.  Will Smith was laughing.  That’s a funny joke.  He looked at his wife, she was pissed, then he gets up then smacks Chris Rock…

…Well, here’s the thing, after, I said to myself something was wrong with this dude.  There’s something wrong with their relationship.  It turns out that I was 100% right.  I found out that Will Smith’s wife has been involved with other dudes…She got interviewed about it and said she got “Entangled”.  Then the guy she messed with writes a rap song about being entangled with her.

So you have all this stuff eating at Will Smith.  He always seemed like a nice squared-away guy…I didn’t know about all this other stuff.  I didn’t know he had this crazy relationship with his wife being with other guys.  That has to drive him crazy.  He’s frustrated…he has issues.  This is like a road rage incident, right?  Or a person that swears at the cashier.  Or a person that starts a fight at the bar.  They’re having a bad day.  In Will Smith’s case, they’re having a couple of bad years.  So they’re going to lash out.  And it’s not good.  It’s weak.  It shows insecurity.  You’re extremely insecure if you lash out like this.  It reveals a lack of control.  And it’s just not strong behavior.  Because the strong person is not going to get bothered by this kind of thing.  It’s a joke.  This goes for her too…

…When you go in the other direction and get super defensive, it’s showing that it’s bothering you.  It’s showing you that you are insecure about the situation.  If you’re a strong man, you’re kind of in an unassailable position.  People can say things, and it’s not going to really bother you.  When you’re a weak person, you feel like you’re in a weak situation. You feel exposed. You feel like you want to lash out…But someone that’s a strong powerful human, they don’t get bothered when someone chirp chirp at them.  It rolls off their backs like ‘whatever man’.  But if you get bothered, there’s some kind of insecurity there.  This is exactly what I think this revealed.  Will Smith is probably insecure about the position that he’s in with his wife.  And it’s a bummer.  He seems like a nice guy.”-JockoWillink

 

To be continued…Tupac…

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