The 7 Lessons We Can Learn From This

 

2)A Man Does Not Go Around Blaming Women for His Depression.

 

I’m going to upset some guys with this statement.  It is unmanly to go around telling the whole world that you are depressed because of some female.  

 

That “Whoa is me…” is for the birds.  That’s some punk shit.  Grow some balls and move on.  Do you want to know my main reason for quoting the anonymous girlfriend of Mr. Black?  Sure it was to reveal his depression and that he wasn’t normally a violent man.  But, I quoted her to reveal that a woman is only going to stomach you for so long, being depressed.  

 

She got tired of that shit.  Do you know why?  You’re supposed to be the shoulder for her to cry on.  The foundation of the relationship.  How can you be that for her, and you’re whining and complaining all the time about some other woman to her.  

 

A woman will only tolerate that shit but for so long.  She didn’t run from him because of his depression.  She was like, “fix that shit so we can move on and start our life.”  But he wouldn’t fix that shit.  And he kept on bringing that drama into her life.  

 

And like she said, to save her sanity, she had to leave.  Even though she loved him immensely.  

 

And to be real, he didn’t realize that he began to look weak to her.  And once she saw that this wasn’t going away, she began to lose some kind of respect for him because he wasn’t being a man.  He wasn’t being emotionally strong.  

 

3)Once You Realize You’re Depressed, Get Help.

 

There is nothing wrong with depression.  It happens to all of us.  I personally know that in the last 14 years, I slipped into a depression at least 3 times and didn’t know it.  I didn’t realize it until I came out of them.  

 

When one of my best friends died on his motorcycle, that placed me in a depression.  Maybe it was because it was the first time I lost someone close to me.  I had been blessed thus far not to lose anyone else.  Furthermore, because he placed himself first before his children which is a sore spot for me because of my childhood.

 

The second time was when my marriage ended.  

And the last time was when my uncle that raised me died.  That one caught me off guard.  I didn’t realize that I was in some type of depression until I was coming out of it a year later.  

 

Anyway, I’ve learned that depression creeps up on you in many ways.  For me, I noticed that I lost the zeal for life.  I just did enough to live my life.  I worked then came home. That was it.   

 

After my friend died, I became overly concerned about my friend’s health.  I remember a few months later a friend of mine caught walking pneumonia .  I was really concerned.  I later realized I was like this, because instinctually I realized that I couldn’t psychologically handle losing another close friend.  I really couldn’t handle this because we were all fairly young guys!  I wasn’t used to death. 

 

Seeing someone in a casket in their 20’s or 30’s is life shaking.  Especially,when they got a life warning years prior, and laughed at a near death warning and the realization that their little girls might not grow up without a father to protect them because of his actions.

 

I digress.  There’s two ways to realize that you’re going through depression.

 

  1. You realize that you’re going through a depression.
  2. People around you realize it.  Especially those close to you.

 

Anyway, once you realize it, you might have to get help.  Don’t let yourself go so far down the road that you decide to take your own life or take someone else’s life.  

 

4)Fight for Your Children.

 

I’ve met many men who have said, “I’ll take a step back from all of my ex-wife’s craziness. And when my children grow up and find me, I will tell them my side.”  And I have seen some children do this and everything works out.  But I’m here to tell you that your passiveness is bullshit!  Most of us won’t give a shit.

 

Look, a child has to see you putting in some effort in trying to be in their life.  Keep in mind, the mother is probably talking shit about you.  But guess what?  Your inaction proves everything she’s talking about!

 

Many young boys grow up into men and realize that their mother may be bat shit crazy.  But guess what, your decades of inaction prove that you’re still a piece of shit.  You didn’t do shit.  You were lazy.

 

A child has to see you fighting to be in their life.  That’s how you show that you love them.  And guess what fellas?  Our fathers in decades past, didn’t have a lot of rights in America.  But today, you have a lot of rights.  If you are willing to fight.  It will cost you a lot of money.  But hey, you married her.  

 

Not all women are like this.  I know plenty of women who want their children’s father in their lives. They know the importance of it.  But I know personally, a lot of women can make your  life hell, when you two break up.  And they can make your life hell, by not letting you see your children.  

 

5)Fight for Your Reputation.

 

(Note:  If you are guilty of any of these things, then you deserve what you get.  I feel no remorse for you.  This is only for those, who are not guilty of these things.  But a lot of you are!  Women and children should not be subjected to the abuse and harassment of males.  You are contrary to what it means to be a man!  God placed in our DNA as men to be the protectors of women, children and the weak.  And you are contrary to our way.  You are the enemy.  

You destroy generations with your actions, you destroy children who will now spend the rest of their lives having to heal from your actions. 

You destroy generations because she is now damaged from your bullshit.  And what comes from her womb afterwards has to deal with a mother who is damaged and hurt. She can’t love them properly, because she is dealing with demons that you created. I digress.  Let us continue.)   .  

 

If a woman falsely accuses you of:

  1. Sexual harrassment (and you were not sexually harrassing her)
  2. Child Molestation
  3. Rape (and you did not rape her.  Sidenote.  “No” Means No. )
  4. False Accusations
  5. False domestic charges

 

Your reputation is all you have. You can’t let shit slide.  You can’t, “take the high road” when it comes to your reputation. There’s a few things you must fight to the death for and your reputation is one of them.

 

Do you know that if you are accused of certain charges that you can never get them removed from your record?  There is no do-over.  This will automatically prohibit you from ever getting certain jobs for the rest of your life?  This goes for women also.  

 

I personally have been falsely accused of lying on federal documents by a lady that I only spoke to once concerning the job.  Unbeknownst to me, a federal investigation was done on me that could have cost me my entire career.  It could have cost me my clearance and a possible five years in prison!  I never met this lady in person!  I was to be collateral damage for her biddings of suing the government as she was known for suing companies and the government for sexual harrassment.  

 

I never did anything she claimed but just the fact that someone is so diabolical and would throw away a life that they don’t even know is real.  ‘

What you guys don’t know, is that by accusing you of physical abuse or sexual abuse of your child (molestation), she could get sole custody of the child.  Now she can leave the state or country. 

 

This almost happened to the singer Tyrese.  His child’s mother was Israeli.  She accused him of physically abusing his daughter.  If she would have won that case, she could have won complete custodial rights.  With that, she could have left for Israel with his child, and he would have never seen her again.  Luckily, he won that battle.  

 

6)The Common Denominator is You.

 

So many times, I’ve had to tell women and men that they have to look at themselves.  They keep finding themselves in violent and drama filled relationships.  They even switch ethinic groups thinking that things will change and they get the same result!  Sir/Mam the common denominator in all of your drama filled relationships is you.  It’s either one of two things:

 

  1. You like a type of person that’s not good for you.  
  2. You are the problem.

 

Pick one.  It’s either or.  Damn woman, every man you chose just happens to be so violent that they beat your ass?  Damn near all of the guys that you’ve dated or married are in the bar notice of your building?  Mam!  The problem is you!  

Dude, all of the women want to take your children from you?  Either you’re very toxic or you like toxic women.  How can this happen twice in a row?  It’s either you or the woman you are choosing.  

 

The only thing that we can change is us.  That means that we can change ourselves or the people that we chose.  We (men and women) have to look at ourselves in our relationships.  

We are the common denominators in those situations.  

 

7)You Can’t Kill the Mother of Your Children.

 

This is an important point that we must discuss.  You can’t kill the Mother of your children.  Except to save your life ( And if you let it get that far, then I don’t know what to say to you.)  But there are two reasons you should never even think this:

  1. Didn’t you love this woman at one point?
  2. She is the mother of your children.

 

Didn’t you love this woman at one point?

 

How can you kill someone that you once loved? Isn’t love sacred?  You may not like them anymore or may not love them anymore.  Maybe they have hurt you by doing some horrendous things.  But you don’t remember once loving them?  No matter how much they hurt you, it is my opinion that you have to respect the memory of the love you once had for them.  Even if it’s gone.  

 

She is the Mother of Your Children

 

How can you kill someone that you reproduced yourself through?  She reproduced children for you.  Think about that.  And now you’re contemplating on killing her?  Really?  

How will your children look at you?  You took their Mother from them.  No matter if she’s even a whore.  That whore is their Mother.  In their childhood they don’t know nor understand her whorish ways.  All they know is that she is their Mother.  They love their Mother.  Do you want your children to hate you?  You took their Mommy from them. 

 

Mr. Rajaee Black, stood there on Facebook Live telling the world that his ex-wife tried to take his children from him.  And that his ex-girlfriend told him that she would do the same thing to him.  And because of this, he murdered his ex-girfriend who was pregnant with his child!  And as a reminder his child died too! 

 

Then, while on Facebook, telling the world what he was going to do to his ex-wife, while his children were in the car!  He went to go and kill her with his children in the car!  Think about what I just said.  Process it.

He was going to take their mother’s life and his life!  He never thought, nor cared what this would do to them!  He completely lost his mind!  His logic disappeared.  

He did all of this because these women threatened to take his children from him.  So he got the bright idea to kill the women, thus taking the Mothers away from the supposed loves of his life-his children! Please.  If you love your children, don’t hurt their Mother. Think of their physical and mental health.  Do you love them?  Save them.  Protect them from pain as much as possible.  Trust me, the divorce was bad enough.  

Now these little girls don’t have a Mother or Father.  And the soon to be Mother has died and will never get a chance to live.  And the Mothers that let him into their lives are now gone.  Parents have lost their daughters.  All because a guy lost his mind.  

 

Conclusion

 

Don’t let women drive you to this point.  If you see yourself going down this road, please get help.  If you love your children, please do it for them.  Get help.  Don’t take their Mothers from them.  Give your children a chance.  Don’t hurt their Mother.  And don’t hurt yourself.  You will destroy these children in ways you can’t imagine.