It’s funny.  Many things that I write about, were ideas that I thought about years ago.  And now that I’ve finally got to the point of writing; I have to touch on certain topics that need to be discussed.  This is one of those subjects.  

 

One day while at work, I decided to visit one of my colleagues on the other side of the building.  I walked in to see my colleague and a construction worker was having a conversation with with him.  A third of our building was under construction, so there were a lot of construction workers in certain areas of the building.  Anyway, the construction worker was talking.  He was telling my friend his story.  He was explaining to my friend how he ended up where he was in life.  Basically he was one of two children in his household.  He had a sister, who apparently was picked over him.  He explained to my friend that his father favored his sister over him.  And because of this, she was given more…even when it came to education.  He spoke about his possible football dreams being destroyed from an injury and he just continued to lay it on and on and on.  Now my friend is usually a hard-knocks guy.  He never tolerates candy ass conversations from males.  But to my amazement, he didn’t react like this this time.  He actually listened to the guy and was patient with him.  I was shocked!  Im usually the one who listens and attempts to understand peoples story.  But this day…I could see straight through this guy.  Even though he was a good guy…he was straight full of shit.  Since it wasn’t my conversation, I didn’t say anything.  But later on, my friend and I had a frank conversation. I see males like this all the time.   

 

The Point

What would I have told this young man or what I tell any male that’s in this”whoah is me” mode ?  I’d tell all of them the following:

 

“I have some bad news for you.  The bad news is that no-one gives a dam about your feelings and pain.  Don’t you notice that the world remorses over the sufferings of women and the sufferings of children?  But don’t you notice that the world doesn’t give a damn about the suffering of men?  The world of men don’t care and women sure as hell don’t care.  And that’s the way it is.  The sooner you come to terms with this the better. ” 

 

Now the question that these guys and even everyone else should be asking themselves is why doesn’t anyone give a damn about the feelings of men?  And the answer is plain and simple…you’re and adult male now.  You see, the world gave a damn when you were a child.  The world doesn’t give a damn once you enter into adulthood because now you are an adult male.  And once you’ve entered adulthood, you must now fulfill the responsibilities and duties of an adult male.  Whether you are a man or not…once you enter into adulthood, you are now an adult male.  And with that entry into that world, you now must assume certain responsibilities.  And what are those responsibilities?  

 

In my book series The Secrets of Manhood, I define what is a man and I also define what is it that a man does.  Most men generally understand what a man does all over the planet.  Even though the backwards west is now trying to force gender fluidity on males making them soft and queer and dominated by the females today…I don’t care what society you’re in…by nature…the females and males naturally expect certain things from the male. They expect the male to:

  • protect
  • provide
  • preside

     

In essence, you are the foundation of your society.  Do you understand this?  Do you understand that in a nation, if the males are weak, the nation will be overcome by stronger males who will take your material wealth? Do you understand that after conquering you, they will take your women and make them concubines?  Do you understand that they can make your daughters into concubines also? Do you understand that your conquerers can take your your young males and have their “way” with your young sons if they wanted to? In the days of old, they would either enslave your sons or castrate them so that they couldn’t reproduce. They’d wipe out your blood line and impregnate your women and propagate their blood line. This is what happens when you have a nation full of weak males. Their women and children become vulnerable.  Why?  Because you were weak.  Nations do this to each other.  When there is no male in the house, your daughters have a larger chance of being loose…in other words-whores. Your sons can end up being out of control because the “right hand” of the male is not in the household.  A strong man brings order in his house. Without you there, the women loses a little bit of her femininity because she now has to be the mother and the father. She just can’t only be the nurturer…especially with males (sons)in the house.

In essence, you can’t fulfill your duty as the physical, spiritual, and emotional foundation for your family and your society if you’re in this “whoah is me” mode. You lose that right to verbally complain about your issues once you entered into the realm of adulthood.  The women and children don’t give a dam because you can’t give them what they need because you’re still in child mode.  So they don’t give a damn.  

 

Should you disregard your past and just be a man?  That’s not what I’m saying, you do need to conquer your demons.  And to be quite honest, before you enter into a relationship with a woman and/or produce children, it’s best that you deal with your demons before you bring children into the world.  Otherwise you won’t be able to give them what they need because you are still dealing with your issues.  And usually if you’re dealing with your unresolved issues, you tend to fall into depression, alcoholism, drug use, verbal abuse or physical abuse.  So you must deal with your demons.  Furthermore, if you don’t deal with your demons, you typically end up doing the same things to your children.  For example, you do know that child molesters usually were molested when they were children? They became what they hated. If you were verbally abused, if you don’t fix the problem, you will probably do the same thing to your wife and children. Do you want that? I don’t think so. So whatever your issues are, get help with your shit and fix it. And men don’t want to hear that shit. We’ll tolerate only so much of it, if you’re a friend. But don’t abuse our friendship. You sound like a sissified candy ass dude to us…soft as marshmallow. Your woman will listen to you at first, but then if you continue, she’ll start to look at you as soft. And if you’re soft, how can you protect her and the children that she produced for you? No one wants to hear that bullshit. Get some help.

 

So you must deal with your demons.  Because we (men) don’t give a damn about your issues.  Man up.  We don’t give a dam because when you fall short, you ruin another generation of children.  The women don’t give a damn because while you’re in a slump, she can’t get what she needs from you- physical and emotional protection and covering. And society doesn’t give a damn, because you’re failing to take on the responsibility of being the foundation of society-A Goddamn Man.

 

So please take this public service announcement seriously…nobody gives a damn about your whoahs. Get some help. Be strong and don’t be a coward by taking your own life…that’s unmanly. Your woman needs you. Your children need you. Your nephews and nieces need you. Your family needs you. Your friends need you. Your society needs you. Your country needs you. The world needs you. They all need you to be…a man. 

 

Just think about it. Until next time….

 

Remember…Be a Man.