Video recap of the incident:
12)Christina should have gotten in the way to deescalate the situation.
Love him (Chad) or hate him, Chad was her child’s father. Whatever game she and her boyfriend were up to, got out of hand when her boyfriend brought the gun out. Things had gotten out of control. It was time for her to get in between them to stop things from getting out of control. All the women should
have called the police at that time and interceded.
13)Even in the heated back and forth chest bumps with Kyle, Chad continued with the question, where was his son.
Despite the chest-bumping back and forth, Chad continued to ask for his son. He just wanted to spend time with his son.
14)Because Chad didn’t consider Kyle as a threat, he didn’t take the weapon from him.
If Chad wanted to take the weapon from Kyle, he could have. He was bigger and stronger than him. I think because he didn’t take him as a threat, he didn’t see the need to. I also think that Chad believed that Kyle was a coward. If he believed that he was a serious threat, he would have taken it from him. I think his taking Kyle for a joke or a non-threat, is why he got killed.
15)Chad threw him off the porch. He didn’t snatch the weapon from him. He could have.
Chad threw Kyle off the porch like a rag doll. And keep in mind, he grabbed Kyle by his arm and the firearm. So he threw him but didn’t keep the firearm! He could have kept the firearm. He wanted to spook Kyle. He has no respect for Kyle.
16)Chad also didn’t charge (attack) Kyle after he threw him off the porch.
After Chad threw Kyle off the porch, he didn’t charge him for the weapon. If he would have realized that his life was in danger, he probably would have charged him. I know I would have. Chad just stayed on the porch.
17)Once Kyle was shown as a physically weaker man in front of his girlfriend, he had to pull the trigger to not look like a coward.
Once Kyle was thrown like a rag doll, he must have felt real embarrassed. First off, he challenged an unarmed man with a firearm who was there to pick up his child. The guy didn’t punk out when he brought the gun out. The guy then challenged him while he had the gun. He shot at the man’s feet and it still didn’t spook the guy. The guy in the confrontation told him that he’d take his gun from him. Then he gets thrown like a rag doll in front of his girlfriend. Then the guy verbally challenged him. After that he couldn’t back down. His ego was on fire. He had to do something. So he double tapped him and killed his girlfriend’s ex-husband.
18)The body language of Kyle and even Christina revealed alot.
After shooting Chad, Kyle and Christina weren’t shocked. I don’t think this was a mistake.
19)It didn’t sound like a gunshot.
Even Chad’s current wife revealed later in an interview, that she thought that Kyle shot Chad with some type of a stun gun or something. Why? Because it didn’t sound loud like a gun. It took a minute for her to realize that Chad might actually be dead!
The 5 Things We as Men Can Learn from the Chad Read Shooting
1) A coward gets empowered by a gun.
It was hilarious to me to watch the change in Kyle, with and without the gun. He became this brave man! That’s what makes guns so interesting in the hands of a coward. Maybe Kyle isn’t a coward. But I can sense that he had been intimidated by Chad. And not only did he have to prove something to his girl friend he had to prove something to himself.
2)When a gun enters into the situation, to survive the confrontation, you must de-escalate the situation.
Growing up in some dangerous areas, I’ve learned how to survive in those environments. I could see a robbery or most crimes coming from a mile away. I understand how criminals move, and I’m able to predict what a criminal is going to do before he does it. And with this knowledge, I can protect myself and others with this knowledge. But one time, I let my guard down. And I paid for it.
As I walked home one evening, I saw a man coming down the street. All of my radars immediately went off, telling me that he was out robbing people. I was attempting to live this knew optimistic philosophy so I ignored my gut instincts. And I paid for it. As soon as he got into range, I greeted him. As soon as that happened, the next thing I knew, I had a gun in my face. I was being robbed.
As he was talking, I finally began to listen to my gut. My gut told me to CALM HIM DOWN. My gut realized that this guy was on something and that his mind wasn’t clear. And in this state, he was very dangerous to my life. I kept him calm, and he took my cash and tossed me back my wallet and went away.
In my opinion, when it comes to dealing with criminals who rob people, you will run into five basic types:
- The expert
- The criminal that’s under the influence
- The novice
- The child criminal
- The scared criminal
The professional criminal has his profession down pact. He understands the mission which is to get money and merchandise ( to sell or keep). He even understands what type of jail time he’s looking at if he’s caught. He also understands what happens if he shoots someone or kills someone. He knows that it makes the environment hot! He avoids it as much as possible. He’s only there to get money. He also knows his craft very well. And he chooses his victims wisely. He wants easy victims.
Now, the criminal that’s under the influence (while performing his craft), the novice, the child criminal, and the scared criminal will all kill you fast!
The novice criminal will kill you because they just don’t know their trade well.
The child criminals are dangerous, because they don’t know how precious life is yet. They also are not punished as severely as adults.
The scared criminal has no heart. He gets his power from his weapon of choice. He has no heart at all. His heart magically appears with that weapon. And if you spook him or give any resistance, he will react by pulling the trigger.
And that is the cowardly spirit, I see in Kyle!
3)You must learn to quickly read the environment to know if you’re being set up or if your life is in danger.
A few years ago, I drove back into town, late at night. I stopped at a gas station and walked in to use the bathroom and get a cup of coffee to stay awake. Immediately, I realized that my life may have been in danger. I was in the wrong “neighborhood”, and the look that everyone gave me let me know that. I instinctively knew to turn around and get out of there as soon as possible. And if they would have pursued, I knew what I would probably have to do to survive that situation. Luckily for me (and them), they didn’t pursue. But growing up in violent areas for a short time as a teenager, taught me well. Many women and men seem to not have these survival instincts.
The more I watch the video, I get the feeling that Kyle was fed up with Chad and had decided to deal with Chad once and for all. And since Chad was already pissed, when he saw the gun, it never dawned on him that maybe his life was in danger. And now, he’s not even alive to have learned from this.
Remember Kyle saying I’m glad this is being recorded? Why did he say that? Why was he so calm after fatally killing his girlfriend’s ex-husband? Listen to his speech. Many of the guys in my circle have all agreed that this guy may have wanted to kill Chad. Maybe or maybe not. But you as a man must know how to read the environment. And you must know that maybe your life or your family’s life may be in danger.
4)If you challenge a man in front of his woman or children, you will have to watch over your back for the rest of your life. Because he now has the intention of taking your life.
If you learn this lesson, you will live a longer life. Never disrespect a man in front of his woman or his children. And when I mean disrespect, I mean:
- spitting on him
- open hand slapping him
- pistol-whipping him
- saying something disrespectful to his woman or children while he’s present
- assaulting him
- Verbally insulting him (or his manhood)
- etc.
Because if you do this, you will have to look over your shoulder for the rest of your life. You force a man to kill you. Think about it, a man who is a superman to his children. By doing this, you have just changed the reality of his children. He could literally see in his children’s eyes the new doubt.
Concerning his woman, the aspect of her nature to feel protected may now be in doubt. Can he protect me? Can he protect my children? And with that doubt now comes some loss of respect. And once a woman has lost respect for you, you have lost it all. The ONLY way to get his respect back is to DEAL with you. If not, she will throw this in your face one day to show how unmanly you are:
“You weren’t talking like that when that guy slapped you. You want to be a man now with me. You weren’t a man then.”
Chad punked Kyle in front of his girlfriend (Christine). And Chad punked Kyle, while Kyle had a gun in his hand. How do you think that made Kyle feel? Think about it Kyle went to get his rifle, the great equalizer. And that rifle didn’t do shit to intimidate Chad. Then Chad threatened to take the gun from Kyle to use it on him. Then Kyle fired at Chad’s feet to back down. Chad didn’t back down. Then Chad eventually threw Kyle off of the porch. Then basically told him what he was going to do. Kyle was embarrassed. His woman was right there watching her man being man handled even though he had the gun!
As men, all of my guys agreed that he was embarrassed. His pride was hurt. And any man, out of pride, would have shot Chad. Even though Chad didn’t pursue after he threw Kyle off the porch, he had disrespected Kyle too much. He punked Kyle. It was either put up or shut up at that time. And if he didn’t put up, he would have lost respect from his woman; and Chad would have lost even what little respect he had for him.
5)When you back any animal in a corner with no way to escape, you have a major fight on your hands.
I remember 50 Cent (the rapper) telling a story about Floyd Mayweather. He was in Floyd’s corner one evening when he noticed that Mayweather injured his opponent. After injuring the opponent, Floyd backed off. He later won the fight of course.
Later on,50 cent asked Floyd why he didn’t finish the guy off after he injured him. Floyd responded, “Are you crazy? A fighter is at his most dangerous after he’s been injured. That always stuck with me.Years later, after reading The Art of War by Sun Tzu again for the hundredth time, I saw a I quote I never saw before:
“When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard”-Art of War
Wow! When I read that quote, my mind reflected to what Mayweather told 50 cent.
What does this have to do with the Chad murder situation? Well, besides also embarrassing Kyle in front of his girlfriend, he also placed Kyle in a corner. He had punked Kyle out so much after flinging him like a rag doll he then asked Kyle what he was going to do. Kyle had no choice but.to save face and shoot Chad. His back (pride) was against the wall. He couldn’t back down. He challenged him for the last time. He didn’t give Kyle a way out. And not having a way out, Kyle had to go out swinging and he pulled the trigger. Maybe he realized that he was over his head by bringing that gun out but once it was on .he started falling deeper and deeper into a situation that he couldn’t dig himself out of. He wasn’t given a way out. No other men were there to intercede and help him save face.
Conclusion
This is just my opinion. Both of them were wrong. Kyle escalated the situation by bringing the fire arm out. Chad further escalated the situation by closing distance on Kyle and not respecting the fact that Kyle was brandishing a weapon. Chad further taunted Kyle by telling him to use it and that he’d take the gun from him. Kyle then shot at Chad’s feet to warn him to step back. Chad, got bolder. Then Chad threw Kyle off the porch like a rag doll, embarrassing Kyle in front of his girlfriend. Out of pride and embarrassment, even though Chad didn’t pursue him, he had to shoot him. Pride was like gasoline with these two. And because of it, someone has died. And Chad’s children will now grow up without a father.
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